After First Date – Bad First Date – She Does Not Want to Meet Again
Here’s the situation. After my last blog post someone asked what to do after a bad first date? It happens.
Yes it happens and it’s not the end of the world or the end of relationship.
Every relationship has its ups and downs – love is no different.
It depends upon what happened?
Don’t tell me you you got drunk and you said or did inappropriate things on your first date…
Who cleans it?
No one from the cleaning department comes to clean it for you…
You have to clean it yourself…
The more shit the more effort…
3 Possibilities After Bad First Date
There are 3 possibilities after a bad first date:
Denial means she no longer wants to meet you ever again. This is big. It’s not about the choice of the restaurant or the date location or the weather or weather she was late… (we’ll cover it later.)
Denial usually happens after you did something really, really stupid – like getting drunk and showing inappropriate behavior. As a rule of thumb don’t even go near drinking if you have even a slight idea that it will cause instability.
Never use vulgar language or you will be denied. No you don’t want to be a nincompoop either. Yah – Shit Happens but not Mother ******* see the difference? These are all words… words can make or break you… watch your words…
The real thing is you have to be a gentleman as a whole – all the time – not just for your particular date. If you only show manners so that the girl will be attracted to you – sorry it won’t help you. In fact it works against you – It’s a mask (Read The Sacred Seduction for more about Masks and Attraction.)
So What To Do if You Get a Denial?
First improve yourself as a human being. Watch your character – All the Time. Remember:
Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny.
Sorry dear there are no shortcuts in life and Dating is no different…
It’s only after you improve your character, your deficiencies… contact her and be sorry for what you did. I hope she will re-consider her decision about you.
How to Contact Her Again?
It depends upon the extent of damage. Did you do something that caused physical damage? I won’t go into details. If it was something physical you must payback with something physical before you contact her again. What can it be? I’m not a magician or thought reader. As a rule;
Bigger the Damage – Bigger the Price.
It reminds me of “American Psycho,” – one of my favorite movies (it realistically portrays the power of the Dark Side.) He physically molests a girl, bruises her. When she threatens to go to a lawyer, he offers her a check that she accepts… and sits in his car… money talks… just some food for thought…
What If it was Her Mistake?
Even if it was her mistake, even if she was unreasonable… tell me do you still love her?
If yes, you have to take the first step. You are THE MAN, you are THE HUNTER, She’s THE HUNTED, you’re chasing her. And you must not give up your chase – provided of course you still love her…
I’ll discuss the next 2 option i.e. waitlist and acceptance in most probably my next post.
Till then, Happy Dating…